165 – Last

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I like to walk on the beach. It is good for the mind, body, and soul – and refreshing on my feet.

The time and events around closing my other blog were very emotional. After all, it was a special place for me for over 11 years. I planned the ending with a series, but many comments touched my heart. With the closing in mind, last is the theme for this walk – but this is not the last beach walk essay. Only the last post of 2022.

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Last, as in final – coming after all the others – bringing up the rear, at the end, and the furthest back.

Terminal also means last – but I chuckle at the thought of going to the airport to begin a trip at the terminal. Then again, others ended their trip on the same plane at the same location.

A play’s last act is the concluding act leading to the ending – the finale. But sometimes, last means the least wanted – the least favorite. The remaining piece of candy in a box of assorted chocolates comes to mind. I won’t touch that last coconut cream.

I think about different lasts in my life. I think about Bobbie Jo, a childhood friend. I’m guessing she moved away when I was in second or third grade. We played a lot together. I remember sadness the day her family moved. I think about her when I pass her new town when I return to my hometown. Did she graduate from there? Is she still there? Is she still alive? Would she remember me? After all, she moved away over 60 years ago.

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I think about my last day of high school. I remember walking out the door that day full of glee – but after the graduation ceremony a week later, I was melancholy – not sad – just low-key. A long-time friend must have been feeling the same. As our classmates were partying, we went out for a hamburger, then each of us went home.

I easily recall my last day in college marching band. It wasn’t the last home football game honoring seniors because I knew there was still more. It wasn’t the following Monday night concert held after the last home game – and yes – seniors were honored again. It was the next day – in a high school gym about an hour from campus where we played a concert. After the final recognition, I sat in the chair with my head down while holding my horn – sobbing. Doing something I loved was over – the last time.

The last day in the classroom of my teaching career – a day that I knew – but only a few others knew. Saying nothing to the students about it, some students came to me saying they were looking forward to having me next year in another class – and me acting as if it was going to happen. Walking out of the classroom for the last time with a different feeling in my gut – only to eventually cry in the car as I was leaving the parking lot.

I think about the last day I saw my mother alive – lying in a hospital bed, unconscious, and her three-year battle with cancer about to end. I left at about 3 pm for the three-hour drive home hoping I would make it home before she died. I did – then got the call at 10 pm that night.

I think about ballroom dances because a waltz usually is the last dance. Yes, the event’s last dance on that given day, time, and place, but truly not the last dance.

Dance Waltz painting by Leonid Afremov

During my days as an independent contractor, deadlines monopolized the project’s closing days. Those last days of a project also meant downsizing the temporary team. Sometimes I knew when it was coming – other times not – yet a finality – the last time.

Last takes a different meaning when related to time, as with the latest, most recent, the previous, or prior – think last year, last month, last week – but when it comes to the last day, we say yesterday – except for last night.

When a person enters their last days of life, some receive last rites before taking their last breath. After passing, visitors will come to pay their last respects before the funeral’s last celebration of life, which ends at the body’s last resting spot.

Some of us are the last of the big spenders, while others are the last in so they can be the first out. At last count, life also gives us the last hurdle, the last minute, the last resort, the last chance, the last call, the last gasp, the last word, the last laugh, the last stand, and the last hurrah.

Hollywood has given us the Last of the Mohicans, The Last King, The Last Emperor, The Last Samurai, The Last Picture Show, and The Last Temptation of Christ. Meanwhile, Indiana Jones has the Last Crusade, Star Wars: The Last Jedi, Freddie the Final Nightmare, Jason the Final Friday, and detective Frank Drebin the Final Insult.

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Life gives many lasts – all before the last minute and the last breath, and the last will and testament coming later. But The Last Time I Saw Her, she was standing waiting for the Last Train to Clarksville because she didn’t Save the Last Dance for Me. Is this evidence that nice guys finish last?

Last but not least, the last detail left is the last paragraph – but I admit that this was fun while it lasted. But there is one last thing – I like walking on the beach because it is good for the mind, body, and soul – and refreshing on my feet.

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110 thoughts on “165 – Last”

  1. Last is an ending but also can be a new beginning……I’ve had a number of lasts in my life – we all have….sometimes we knew at that moment it was a last but often the LAST is a surprise. I hope we can all open our hearts to a lot of FIRSTS in the new year. I’m already looking forward to your FIRST walk on the beach in 2023………………………..

    Happy New Year Frank, Pam

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    1. Stefy,
      Thank you for the kind words. I didn’t think of this walk of being moving or emotional, but I now see it through comments as yours and others. Cheers to new adventures and new beginnings. Oh …. I can’t remember if I told you, but I now hold dual citizenship with Italy.

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    1. Merril,
      Glad you appreciated a bit of my emotional & personal side in this walk. I didn’t realize until I read Tom’s comment below that I had a wide range of emotions in this one … so your acknowledgment of that made me smile. Thank you …. and best wishes to you and yours for 2023.

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  2. Quite a bit of emotion in this post, Frank… sad in places and fun in others, but another good read.
    I don’t think I’ll be the last to wish you all a Happy New Year! 🥂

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  3. Thanks for sharing these thoughts, and especially this post. If you plan to blog in a fresh direction, please include me on the notifications. You were one of my most influential teachers and I’ve enjoyed seeing more of life through your eyes.

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    1. Luke,
      Thank you for not only the kind words, but for the continual support you’ve given me since the time we first met. Good news is this isn”t that last beach walk – besides, I have many more at various stages of development. Besides, I got to keep trying to stimulate another sermon! 🙂 Blessings to your family and pass along my hello to your brother. Onto to 2023!

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  4. Good morning Frank, and thanks for the link. Your post today seems a bit melancholy – did you intend it to be so or is it me reading into it? I guess I think as we age our “lasts” become a bit more final and there is a certain sadness to that. I’m personally hoping this is the LAST time my husband and I face Covid (it’s him this time, not me) and also that this is the LAST time we see a deep freeze on Kiawah (so very rare but a long one this time 😩) although I know many others had a much worse go of it than we did. I guess the truth is I’m happy to say goodbye to 2022 and hoping 2023 brings a bit more travel, some new life (my nephew and his wife are pregnant) and a new outlook on what qualifies as good news! wishing you all the best in 2023 and lots of enjoyable beach walks!

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    1. Tina,
      I didn’t realize the wide range of emotions that were in this essay until some readers above mentioned it. In general, I think “last” is naturally melancholy, but definitely not always. After all, as you mentioned, 2022 did bring some lasts that we hope we never see again. On the other hand, I also realize this walk also have positives in it. Oh well … thanks for sharing …. and cheers to your nephew and his wife as they await the arrival of something that will change their lives. On to 2023!

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  5. Good morning Frank! I’m finally getting my first walk on the beach with you, but it definitely won’t be my last! I’m probably the last person to follow you for the first time this year!

    I truly enjoyed your post. You are not afraid to reveal some very personal and touching memories with your readers. We’ve all faced lasts and not all of them were happy experiences, but they are just one of the experiences of life. At 83, I often think I’ve outlived my expiration date, but then it seems the best is yet to come!

    I hope 2023 is filled with delightful firsts for you! Looking forward to joining you on the beach next year. Thanks for inviting me to walk with you. Just so you know, my feet feel better too! Now that’s a first!
    Ginger

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    1. Ginger,
      You made it and welcome to the friendly sands of my beach. Thanks for the kind words and for sharing. Life certainly filled with firsts and lasts, hellos and goodbyes, and more that fit into this theme. Then again, these are the kinds we reflect on as we get older.

      This is a typical beach walk – well, probably a bit more personal than most of the others – but the flow and format. Here’s something for you. I invite to see the Topics List tab/page at the top. I list the topics that are currently on the docket. If completed they are linked. I also add to the list from time to time. But you may find something there of interest. Also, here’s the link. https://beachwalkreflections.wordpress.com/topics-list/

      At the top of the list is Introducing BWR (Beach Walk Reflections), which was the first walk that introduced this place. The About page/tab tells a bit more.

      Where are you located in the world? I’m Cincinnati, Ohio … which isn’t the beach, but the first walk and the About page will explain.

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      1. Frank, my husband and I live in Port Jervis, NY, located in the Hudson Valley. We moved here 30 years ago from Westchester County, NY. We’re below Buffalo, so fortunately didn’t experience the snow accumulations they did. We’re in the northwest portion of the HV, so it’s mighty cold here and snowfall is more than average.

        I checked out your suggestions to try and play catch-up, and I like what I’m reading. I will be going through old posts just to get to know you better.

        I’m not a blogger, but so many talented bloggers, including you, have welcomed me with open arms to read their posts and make comments. This is a wonderful community to be a part of. I’ve ‘met’ wonderful people and we have formed beautiful friendships. Doesn’t get better than that.

        Wishing you and your bride a healthy, safe and happy New Year. Hope you find something to laugh at every day and that 2023 has a few special surprises in store for you.
        Ginger

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  6. Whew…for a moment I was completely verklempt at the thought of the last, as in this blog was to suffer the same fate as the other one. Don’t scare me like that! Wishing you a very Happy New Year, Frank. Here’s to a safe, happy and healthy 2023.

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    1. Laura,
      Last is many things – and yes – I too worried about the title giving readers the wrong impression. So , one of the things I added was the line near the beginning about this not being the last beach walk … problem solved. Thanks for walking along and cheers to the fresh beginnings of a new year!

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    1. Tricia,
      Not only welcome to my relaxing beach, thank you for writing your poem. After all, I couldn’t link it if you didn’t write it and post it. 🙂 Thanks for letting me know you enjoyed the background. I offer it with every walk as an option. Each walk focuses are a one-word theme and I try to provoke thinking, I invite you to return.

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              1. I’m outside of Kansas City, MO and I really miss the ocean. As an armywife I got to travel and live in New Orleans and South Carolina so I did have some fun near water. Myrtle Beach was a favorite spot of mine It’s been too cold here lately and I’m missing the vitamin D. ☀️⛱️

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  7. In the blogging world we all understand the notion of “the last thought…for now.” As many people are fond of using the last words, “more to come.” I am three years past my last day of full time employment. I hope I haven’t written my last chapter (literally or figuratively) and I am dutifully getting ready to prepare last year’s tax return(s). Taxes, one of the few obligations we have to satisfy after we are gone. Thanks for an enjoyable year, Frank (if this is your last post of 2022).

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    1. Jo,
      Because I worried that the title would give the wrong impression, I made sure I clarified early in the essay. Meanwhile, my plan is to continue – after all, I have many posts ready in the queue, and others at various forms of development. Best wishes for 2023 to you and yours.

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  8. Something so melancholy about “Last,” Frank. Your last concert band experience, last day teaching, and last day with your mother truly touched me. Perhaps it’s a good thing for us to reflect on the “lasts” we’ve experienced, especially as the last day of this year nears. That way, we can be ready to usher in the new year with a somewhat clean slate. Here’s to 2023!

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    1. Debbie,
      To be honest, I didn’t realize the range of emotions in this walk until reading several early comments – but they helped me understand. As we know, reflection is a good thing – and each of us should probably do more. The end of the year is a good time – but not the only time. I enjoy various year in review we find at this time of the year – especially those remember people who died during the year. Glad that some of my thoughts in this essay touched you. Look back, I wish I would have stated the year for each. Oh well … on to 2023!

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  9. Perhaps I’ll be the last to leave a comment, Frank. I wouldn’t take anyone’s last Rollo, and definitely not their last strawberry or orange cream chocolate. Terminal does tend to convey death to me and I was touched by your mention of Mum. I liked the painting of the dancers, Frank, and I hope that you always have that last dance. See you in ’23, Frank. Stay healthy!

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    1. Jo,
      Wow … Even with your sweet tooth, you wouldn’t take the last? That’s impressive and quite generous. This may qualify you for a distinguished humanitarian award of some kind! Terminal is an interesting word, and I can see associating it with death … and I also link it with cancer. Nonetheless, I too hope for many more dances ahead. Best wishes for your 2023!

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  10. Frank, I did not know you had another blog. I’m sorry about that. This was a lovely reflection of so many lasts. I was moved reading this. If I may ask, why did you not tell your students you were retiring? Best to you in the new year ahead!

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    1. Jennie,
      My previous blog was home for over 11 years, so a lot when on there. As I approached the last days there, I did a lot of reflecting – which was a good thing and it helped bring closure to me and for my readers. In terms of teaching, from the classroom I went to the curriculum office – which turned out not to be not to be that rewarding.

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      1. I’m glad you reflected and had closure, Frank. Thanks for filling me in on your leaving the classroom. Children are more rewarding than curriculum. Happy New Year.

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  11. Frank, at last we are alone!
    I have many kisses and best wishes for you in 2023.
    I thought there was another meaning for last, probably archaic, to do with tying up of corsets and other things. NOT lash.
    Anyway, I could be right, but as the term judy has lasted, I’ll concede, for now!
    Happy New Year, my dear Frank!
    I’m sure you feel the same way about your wife, as I feel about my N. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-cbOl96RFMx

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  12. Well, when I think of “last” what comes to mind is the last few years. Many changes, not only the ones that we shared as a nation and a world, but personally. And I am in my last few weeks in 50’s, soon to enter my 6th decade of life. I am sometimes looking back at lasts, and then switch to looking forward to “nexts”. I guess that’s just how life is! Some lasts are sad, but many are good 😊

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  13. Wow, so very deep! Almost the last thing I would have expected today…and while I have been AWOL in most of the blogs I follow, today you are not the last on my list to check, you are first!

    One of the things we as Christians hear a lot about is the last days, the last (or second) coming.

    After I graduated from Highschool, I couldn’t bear the thought that for the time-being the last of my association with music and the teacher that we had was going too end, so sometimes I would go back into the classroom and meet the ‘next batch ‘ of musicians to be…and enjoy a chat with my teacher. (Who was like an extra father figure, I learned so much from him, and not all was about music. I even got to be at his home a few times,. and he took me with his wife to see an opera once. I SO missed him when I heard he had at last in his long life gone to heaven.) And those days are long gone when anyone could just walk into a school and into a classroom, no less and not be apprehended! In fact those days did come to an end for me shortly after my last revisit…as there was a mass shooting in there…one of the first I had ever heard of. ( 1973, if have it correct.) My brother was in his last class of the day, and he lingered to speak with his teacher, else he too, might have been one of the several victims.

    And last but not least I now will ‘travel’ to Pam’s blog and see what menu items I have missed out on, LOL!

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  14. All legitimate “lasts” of course, but you could change the focus to things that last–memories in particular. My parents both passed away this year, but I have many wonderful memories that will last. Our Christmas this year is much better this year than the last because we were able to all be together (at last!) Friendships that last are so important and we’re blessed to have some of those. Anyway, that’s the last thing I’ll add but close by wishing you a blessed New Year.

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    1. Janet,
      Good points/ Lasting memories are many – the good & bad, happy & sad, triumphs & failures, and the list can go one. In someways, I wish I could wipes out some memories, but – it just doesn’t seem to work that way. Thank you and best wishes for your 2023!

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  15. Last. Just seeing the title of your blog made my stomach drop (interesting expression, huh?) First, I was afraid you were stopping your blog, which would be a BIG mistake. But fortunately, you write instead about the last post of the year. As I read each of your ‘lasts’ (this post is brilliant, by the way), I realized that the word “last” is a challenging word for me, and I guess for others as well. I love each minute of every day (or I try to, for sure), so when the day has ended, or the family dinner out is finished, or the night with friends, or the final story I’ve written for the day, or a goodbye to a friend on the phone, or (on and on) I know that momentarily ‘last’ is a bit of a downer for me. But, with the last, always comes a first. Good news! And even with the last breath, we look forward to the new first, wherever it is we go.

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    1. Pam,
      Thanks for sharing some of the aspects of last in your life. Last surely is throughout our daily life. Even though last have their way of getting you down, you also embrace the good news of the firsts that follow. Given your examples, I want to also toss in the word “next”.

      I chuckled and smiled about your initial reaction of this being my last beach walk essay. Actually, I worried about giving that impression, so a few days before publishing, I added the bit about being the last post of 2022. Comments also show that you weren’t the only person getting that impression. Bottom line – thank you!

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  16. After every ‘last’ there is a ‘first’. I think of the ‘last’ as a foundation for the next step, physical, metaphysical or spiritual. Is there ever truly an end without a beginning?

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    1. Jaya,
      Thank you for the kind words. To be honest, even with this post being ready to publish, I wasn’t sure about the when. After all, I didn’t want to give the impression that this was the last post ever. Then it hit me – the end of the year – the last post of 2022. Winner!!!! So yes – last is “something that endures.” Thanks for those words.

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  17. When spending time with someone who lives far away, when doing something that requires physical exertion…many times I wonder if this will be the last time. Other times I try to remember, “When was the last time?” Thank you, Frank, for a very thought-provoking, but fun New Year’s post! ❤ Happy New Year!

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  18. “Last” is a word loaded with emotions, for sure Frank! When you described your last day teaching, then crying in your car, I remember my two lasts (retiring from my job of 32 years the Friday before Christmas–and no one was around)! We’d already had my retirement party but it was sad walking out the door for the last time in December 2014. My last day teaching at the university after 10 years and a semester of Zoom, and asynchronous learning in Fall 202 was sad once I realized I wasn’t coming back to the Sacramento campus. Within days we moved to Spokane, WA. Lasts are important though so we can remember and move on. Excellent post!

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    1. Terri,
      Thank you for the kind words and for sharing a bit of your personal lasts. Moving had to help … well in a way because that’s a stressful event. I agree – last is loaded with emotions – and a wide range of them. Besides, as we know, emotions are a roller coaster ride! All the best for you and yours in 2023.

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  19. For every first, yes . . there is going to be a last. I find the symmetry comforting rather than dubious, since all it really means is that something else begins. A last is always a first for something else, somewhere else. Sorry for being so philosophical but yanno . . I’m in that head space at the moment.

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  20. I really enjoyed your musical references, Frank. There are a lot of “last” songs, to be sure. So many of the things that stand out in my memory as poignant “last” moments lead to melancholy, and I don’t linger there for very long. But if I really think about it, I suppose we have millions of lasts we’d find at least somewhat significant. Perfect blog post for the end of the year and a welcome reminder to make memories in 2023, as well.

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    1. Debra,
      After this essay was ready, I struggled determining when to post it – then it hit me – the last post of the year … (so then I added how this isn’t the last beach walk) … Bingo – and it seemed to work. Then, it became obvious that “order” would fit as the first post of the new year. Doubel bingo! Yes – last has a melancholy side – and yes – life provides many lasts. Yet, lasts lead to new beginnings, new challenges, new opportunities, new frontiers, and more.

      Glad you enjoyed the list of songs. Whether song titles or idioms, I like the challenge of stringing them together into a nonsensical sentence that seems a bit real! 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

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  21. Such a thought provoking post Frank… So many things when we look back are lasts… Yet each ending is allowing us a New Beginning…
    Here is to all those NEW BEGINNINGS we still have yet to encounter, courtesy of the the Endings and the lasts in our lives..
    Happy New Year dear Frank… May each New Day bring Joy, laughter, light feet as you dance your way into 2023…

    Happy New Year! 🙂

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    1. Sue,
      Many thanks for the best wishes and sorry for the delay in responding. Anytime someone describes one of these essays as thought-provoking, a good feeling rushes through me because that is one of my aims. Yes, lasts least leads to not only new beginnings, but also future lasts – all seems to be part of a cycle of life. As Sonny and Cher said, and the beat goes on. Thanks for walking along and sharing!

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